i’m reading a book right now and the person is chronicling her journey in recovery. the more i was reading, the more i thought, man, she seems really judgmental of everyone. then i thought, adia, aren’t you judging her?
um, yeah. oops.
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Dec
28
judging a judger
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Dec
06
mother daughter sanity, pt. 2
so, my mom was just taking a bath. she was in the bathroom for more than an hour. at one point, she asked me to come in and hand her the face wash. as i left the bathroom, it hit me: adia, you haven’t spent the last 45 minutes exercising fanatically! it’s little things for most people, but it was huge for me. ( Read more )
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Dec
04
mother daughter sanity
my mom and i are on our 18th(?) yearly mother daughter trip. seriously. we’ve been going since i was in 5th grade. we’ve been several places in the us, from monterey and carmel and pacific grove to boston to atlanta to chicago to maui to tons of other places. and while we went to a variety of places, my mindset was often one thing: ( Read more )
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Dec
04
quashing the shame
i’ve never known a black female who’s had an eating disorder who hasn’t felt ashamed because of it.
- not uncomfortable.
- not embarrassed.
- not guilty.
ashamed. ( Read more )
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Nov
30
stunted growth – fun times
so, i recently wrote a huffington post piece about real housewives of beverly hills and stunted growth. it’s very interesting to see that topic still rearing its head. wait, i might think, if i write about it, isn’t it supposed to be gone? um, not necessarily. ( Read more )
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Jul
24
what amy winehouse’s life, addiction and death mean to me
I heard today that Amy Winehouse died. When I first heard about Amy Winehouse was when she’d made a rendition of ‘Moody’s Mood for Love’. So I grew up with that song, ‘F**k Me Pumps’, and more. Then, a little later I hear this new album, ‘Back to Black’, where she’s doing a song called ‘Rehab.’
By this time, I’d already heard about her rehab issues. ( Read more )
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Jun
14
scripture & a prayer
bible scripture and a 12-step prayer, that is.
i’ve been having one of those days. y’know, those. days. but let’s not get into that.
i’ve had a couple songs stuck in my head since yesterday. just wanted to share them with you:
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May
30
no, it’s not sad!
there have been a few times where friends have read my pieces and they’ve said, “adia, this is so sad.” it’s always surprised me because i don’t see these things as sad. ( Read more )
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Apr
26
chucking eggs
i was just looking at my main website’s list of alternatives and noticed one of the suggestions was:
- Throw something (preferably not breakable!)
it made me remember this one time near the beginning of my recovery when i did the opposite. ( Read more )
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Jan
24
checking out of rehab
i heard about the “golden voice” guy checking out of rehab after two weeks. having gone into rehab when i was 17 – and being there with girls who were under 18 – i never experienced people checking themselves out. ( Read more )
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